The Spice Of Wife Retreat
Amp Up the Flavor Profile of Your Wife-ing Journey–
Love Passionately and Partner Playfully as a Strong, Independent Woman with facilitators Brooke Sann, Carly Thornock and guest Csilla Fee at The Lakehouse nestled in the foothills of the Adirondack Mountains in Upstate New York.
May 3rd-5th 2024
(Friday afternoon-Sunday morning)
Embrace your most fabulous feminine potential without sacrificing your sassy opinions or strong initiative. The Spice of Wife Retreat sets you up to show up in your marriage in the way that feels best to you, loving your man better than ever.
Magnify your magic for:
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Play
Commit to fun or it doesn’t happen. Tap into your inner child and intuition so you can be playful, fun, and spicy.
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Passion
Stoke that inner fire to bun hot and bright. Create intense passion in your life and your marriage.
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Presence
No guilt, no resentment, no anxiety. Learning how to live in each moment just one moment more to breathe in and be present in your life.
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Power
Stepping into your FULL self, learning how to access your divine power so you can show up as your whole self.
“I am committed to my marriage, my children, my career, my health, and my faith. I’m overwhelmed trying to maintain balance and keep everyone happy.”
Do any of the following describe your situation right now, today?
You feel a little blah– things are fine, everything is fine, you’re fine… but you’re getting kinda bored of fine. You want to wake up in the morning thrilled about your existence. And if not thrilled, at least highly entertained. And if not highly entertained, at least not stressed and annoyed.
You’re frustrated because well-meaning friends and family tell you “you just can’t have it all” and you feel like you have to sacrifice something that is really important to you in order to succeed. You know they can have their opinions, but you sometimes wonder if you’re dreaming too big.
You really want to keep your home clean and provide a beautiful, comfortable nest for your family (because you love those guys!! A LOT!), but you’re often overwhelmed and lonely when it’s time to make another meal… again…
You take it upon yourself to make sure that your husband is never cranky, and you strive to protect his happiness by doing more… more time, more smiling, more asking good questions, more positive listening, more date nights.
Your kids are super rad, but you feel a sense of panic when you take them out in public (or around the in laws) because if they’re loud (or tantruming) everyone gives YOU the side-eye. This comes out as resentment in your marriage– why is all of this your job, your fault, your thing to manage?!
You feel compelled to contribute financially to the home because you have big dreams, and you love your people. You want to make their lives better, easier, and more fun. You want your husband to be able to relax. But your stress is climbing and you don’t know how to say no without being rude.
You’re confused because while you like your life, and you have checked the “adulting well” boxes, you don’t feel good. You don’t feel awful, but your inner spark feels like it’s fading, and you can’t figure out why.
If these symptoms hit close to home, you're not alone!
We’re here to help you transform your diet of plain rice cereal into a taco fiesta buffet. Or curry. Or BBQ. Maybe all.
If You’re Feeling Bland, Especially in Your Marriage, It’s Because You’re a Liar. (JK- kinda…)
True connection with your spouse comes from telling the radical truth.
You’ve likely been told that “if each partner gives 100%, then all needs will be taken care of.”
Or maybe you’ve heard, “I take care of his needs, and he takes care of my needs– that’s how selfless marriages last.”
While all of these aren’t necessarily wrong, they don’t work unless you know one key element: Deep connection comes from being willing to be radically honest.
And if you don’t know yourself, honesty is really, really hard.
You feel like a blank slate, a white paper, a fresh pack of Crayola Air Dry Clay… super flexible, but very ambiguous. Bland, if you will.
We are taking a break from bland.
You can always go back. Never fear. But for today, we’re spicing things up.
The more we lean into the colorful parts of ourselves, the more connection we feel.
The more vulnerable and open we are, the more connection we feel.
The more space we take up, the more connection we feel.
The more cinnamon you put on your applesauce, the better it is. These are all facts.
And right now you feel disconnected because you’re not telling the truth. Not because you’re being deceitful, but because you’re disconnected.
If you’re feeling disconnected in your marriage, it’s because you’re disconnected from yourself.
Likely, you’re secretly (sometimes even subconsciously!) striving for neutrals, flexibility, and being realllllll nice.
My friend, my sister, my girl— for all the nobleness and good intentions of these choices to people please and play it safe, THAT IS BORING. And that is disconnecting.
“Passion comes from feeling really safe with ourselves.” -Brooke
Success at home, and in a marriage, is most definitely NOT about time management. It’s not about efficiency. It’s not about doing it ‘right.’
Being a great wife is about cultivating an iron-clad inner sense of safety and belonging. It’s about WAKING UP to who you are and showing up with flair, even if it makes messes, costs money, makes someone late, or uses extra water (oh hi from a drought state, nbd #watertrauma).
“Being a great wife is about YOU. You wife. He husbands. The dance between the two is called marriage. “ - Carly
Here, at The Spice of Wife Retreat, we’re taking about Wife-ing. On your terms. From your soul. In huge love.
We also might talk about the Spice Girls briefly. Because we like a good theme.
The Spice Of Wife Retreat
May 3rd- May 5th
Venue
The Lakehouse, New York
At the The Spice of Wife Retreat, we have three goals: Passion, Play, and Presence. We call them The 3 P’s (alliteration is our superpower, next to curly-hair wrangling).
Are you ready to spice up your role as a wife?
Being a wife is all about embracing your unique flavor and adding that extra dose of excitement to your relationship! Just like a dash of finishing salt here and a dab of cumin there can make all the difference, there really are only a few little changes that will COMPLETELY change your wife-life.
At The Spice of Wife Retreat you’ll learn the art of communication and how to embrace confidence and more! Each of the weekend workshops are designed to help you tap into your inner flavor and bring that energy into your romance.
You will leave soul-filled to the brim from fun activities, insightful discussions, and plenty of girl power vibes. Hone into who you wannabe and discover the secrets to keeping the spark alive in your marriage as 2 become 1. Stop right now and book your spot. Get ready to zig-a-zig-ah your way to marital bliss and become the wife you've always dreamed of being, living your life full of all that joy can bring. (Can’t stop won’t stop…).
Our expert speakers will share their wisdom on topics like passion, play, presence, boundaries, and communication, helping you become the ultimate wife boss.
Let’s break it down–
Passion: Cacao
(**Which is absolutely an actual spice*)
The spark is NOT gone. Sometimes it’s just curled up under the sofa chatting with the dust bunnies.
What even is the spark?
Spoiler: it’s inside of YOU. It’s not some “thing” that happens when the stars randomly align or your hubs decides to load the dishwasher the way you like.
It’s time to step up, drop the guilt, and sally forth into blazen femininity. Take back the bedroom! Reclaim your allure! Feel alive again! Usually this begins with getting massive sleep. And we’re here to help you through it all (without medication, promise).
Play:Vanilla
(If it lives in the spice aisle, it’s legal game)
Simple, but adding depth to any dish, Play is here to help you get. 👏 aligned. 👏
As Passion’s favorite sidekick, once you know what makes you come alive, the only thing left to do is to say no.
That’s it. That’s the secret.
Scary at first (Scary Spice?! What?!), saying no frees you up to say yes to all the fabulous, adventurous, thrilling things you’ve always wanted to do/become/have.
Remember what play feels like? That lightheartedness, that “OooOOO” of mischievous twinkling? That’s the beacon. We say yes to play, and no to the rest.
What about being responsible, you ask? We’re not abandoning anyone or anything. When responsibility feels fun, this will be a problem of the past. You’ll be fabulous at adulting, don’t worry one iota.
In your marriage, this will be the thing that turns resentment into freedom. You CAN live big in the world and big in your marriage. And it is all about how much fun you can receive.
Presence: Lavender
(considered a “floral spice” and is the Windex healer for all ailments)
Be cool as a cucumber when your man gets upset, and still have empathy.
Let me say it again:
It’s 100% possible, and the guaranteed result of this weekend, that you will be cool as a cucumber when your man gets upset, and feel feelings of massive love. At the same time.
It is not your job to change him. This is a futile effort (I’m guessing you’ve tried, as we all have). Instead, we champion unconditional love, which starts with loving what’s going on now and dropping the conditions.
Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean “everything is fine… smile and strut, girl.” Nope. This is a revisit to radical honesty, and invigorating acceptance.
Turns out,
It only takes one to change a relationship.
This is a game changer because you can take the quickest exit from the Highway of Controlling All and enter the resort of relaxed appreciation.
Nailing passion, play, and presence will let you enjoy yourself more than you ever imagined possible.
Unlike other marriage seminars you might encounter, the Wife-ing Well Weekend does NOT include:
❌ Shoving your preferences in deference to the partner
❌ Pushing what you want aside for the better good of the marriage
❌ Giver intimacy
❌ List of shoulds
❌ Formula to happiness or “The right marriage” guide book
❌ A how-to-get-your-way tutorial with active listening, question prompts, etc. aimed to coerce a behavior you want
❌ Sexy tutorial
❌ Love language manuals shoulds
❌ How to coerce husbands into doing what we want, grasping for approval
❌ Wondering if our spouse is the right one.
If those things are your jam, there are lots of options for you on the interwebs. HERE, we’re all about:
✅ Once you know what you want, it’s so easy to give.
✅ Art of tuning in
✅ Confidence to act on your intuition and inner divinity
✅ Woman as a stand alone change maker
✅ Radical intimacy invitations (6 ways)
✅ Learn how to change an entire relationship without including husband– secret
✅ Creating love constantly
✅ Reclaiming real independence. Only you can give yourself permission to exist as an equal partner
How often have you thought “something needs to be done here” but just not known what to do? Have you been on the cusp of therapy (or maybe you’ve tried! We sure have!) but felt overwhelmed and alone, or worse, disappointed and confused by your experience with a professional?
Well, guess what? The Wife-ing Well Weekend is your ticket to understanding, but with none of the ick.
No guilt, no stress, no second guessing, no shame, no shoulds.
Only a deep commitment to loving (which feels awesome!).
The Details! Where? When? How is this all going down?
The Spice of Wife Retreat is happening May 3-5, 2024. We’ll be transforming the way we wife in the Foothills of the Adirondack Mountains at The Lakehouse in upstate New York.
Because, what’s a transformation without a lakeside infinity pool, right?
Plus a private on location chef, offering organic whole food meals for the entire weekend. (We can customize any food allergies, plans just let us know.)
And yoga, and meditation.
Oh, and personalized coaching, plus training in life-changing principles that will transform your own marriage (of course) but also the trajectory of your kids’ lives, and their kids’ too.
I mean, the only thing missing here is a Stanley water bottle.
(JK, those are coming too!! It’s PERFECT!)
Here’s what you can expect:
Friday:
5:00 Dinner together at the lake house, provided by our private chef
6:30 Opening Session– Where I End: Creating Clear, Loving Boundaries (Ginger)
Saturday:
8:00 Breakfast together at the lake house
9:00 Passion (Cacao)
10:00 Kintsugi
12:00 Lunch together at the lake house
1:00 Play (Vanilla)
2:00 Cold Plunge (not mandatory, but the epitome of fun)
3:00 Snack
3:30 Presence (Lavendar)
4:30 Yoga/Meditation
6:00 Dinner together at the lake house
7:30 Dessert and activity
9:00 Head to bed
Sunday:
8:00 Breakfast together at the lake house
9:00 Closing Session– Communication that Rocks: When It Goes Great, and When It Doesn’t (Cinnamon)
10:00 Head to airport and home
About the Lakehouse
Whether you are local to the area or traveling in from out of town The Lakehouse is situated in the foothills of the Adirondack Mountains. An exclusive retreat with mountain & lake views, nestled in the woods with walking trails, breathtaking views, a 8 person spa, infinity pool and cozy bright open indoor spaces. 70 minutes from Syracuse airport.
How do I get a ticket?
We’d love to have you join us for The Spice of Wife Retreat!
Tickets are $2,995. (A variety of payment plans included!)This includes all sessions, FULL access to 3 day retreat, workshops, facility amenities (Hot tub, pool, trails, lake, etc.) and all food (meals, drinks, snacks) for the entire weekend.
Grab your spot soon, because while we’d love to have everyone with us cozying up by the fireplace in the Adirondacks, we are limiting this intimate retreat to only 12 participants.
Upgrade to a VIP ticket and get these amazing bonuses:
Stay in a private room on location in the lake house (limited availability) for the two nights and three days of the retreat. No back-and-forthing, no airbnb finding, no GPS fighting! So easy, so delightful.
Private car service pick-up from the airport to the lake house, and back on Sunday
BONUS: Carly’s Cocreating Home audio training (value: $200)
There are two VIP tickets:
Lodging VIP Private Room :$995 for either queen or king size bed all to yourself for the whole weekend. Where you can escape it all and tune into you.
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Lodging VIP Shared Room/Bed: $395 for either queen or king size bed you can share with your girlfriend, sister, mother etc. Our Bed buddy is our super duper best deal of the weekend deal. You and your girlfriend could get a killer discount of $600 each!
**Make sure your bedbuddy signs up separately and upgrades to Lodging VIP Shared Room/Bed. We’ll contact you to make sure we’ve got assignments all sorted.
By next fall, you could be:
Zero percent stressed about equality of tasks around the house;
Excited to see your husband in the evenings;
Delighted at how easily things seem to be flowing for you in all of your realms of care;
Spending more quality time with your husband and your passions, feeling the synergy between the two and thriving in ways you’ve never considered before;
Feeling deep compassion when a grumpy spell strikes the man of the house, but without the pressure to fix anything or change yourself;
Worry-free when it comes to giving and receiving love, because you’re clear about what you need and how to meet those needs.
The Spice of Wife Retreat will get you there.
Join us now.
BUT WAIT! THERE’S MORE! Ha haaaa! But it’s true!
If you decide to join The Spice of Wife Retreat before April 1st, you’ll get these bonuses too!
One 30 minute coaching session (one-on-one!) with Brooke Sann, and
One 30 minute private coaching session with Carly Thornock.
As you implement all that you learn at the lake, we’d love to help with any questions that come up as your feet hit the ground at home!
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Brooke Sann
FACILITOR/MARRIAGE & LIFE COACH
Brooke is a marriage and life coach who has dedicated her practice to studying relationships, connection, and passion. Brooke believes that every woman has talents and gifts that are uniquely designed for them and divinely placed. Helping women tap into their intuition so they can live a FULLfilling life, and learn to bring their whole and colorful selves to their lives.
As a recovering people pleaser and validation seeker she is passionate about truly taping into self worth and innerchild work as she continues to create radical connections in her relationships.
The Sann Clan lives in an ol’ farmhouse at the foothills of the Adirondack Mountains in upstate New York raising four barefoot children, three boys and one baby girl. She loves to spend her days canning, soup creating, and taking walks in the woods with her gang and her coon hound Bella. Brooke loves to stay up to the wee hours of the night having soul searching heart to hearts with her hunky hunny. When greeting and meeting new people she skips all the small talk and dives into deep, powerful, emotional, and raw conversations, knitting her heart with others.
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Carly Thornock
FACILITATOR/HOME LIFE COACH
Half life coach and half interior designer, Carly Thornock wrote the research on how homes help families thrive. She champions living a life (and creating spaces!) infused with brilliant humanity, wonder-filled stories, and deeply rooted relationships.
Heralding from the world of academia and a writer at heart, she brings solid family science to couples and families living and loving in the trenches of beautiful, messy, real life.
Carly and her husband live full time in their tiny house exploring national parks with their three boys, stopping to renovate real estate and jumping into cold rivers along the way, just for fun. But it wasn’t always this way…
For over a decade, Chase fought for his life with a mean autoimmune illness. Marriage was tough, paving the way for lots of healing in all the ways for both Chase and Carly.
These days, the Thornocks don’t take a single day for granted. Their marriage has evolved into a beautiful garden of growth and becoming. It’s Carly’s deepest desire that you can anchor into grounded knowing in your partnership too.
Her favorite Spice Girl is either Oprah or CS Lewis.
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Csilla Fee
INTUITIVE LIFE COACH
Csilla is passionate about living life with intention. She had cancer as a young adult and knew from the very beginning that there was more to healing after remission. Through her journey she has inspired people worldwide to add joy and possibility back into each day and get them more engaged and enjoy living again.
Using a somatic approach, she helps people let go of what no longer serves them and teaches them to intuitively connect with their deepest desires. She believes that people are conditioned to believe their limits and designed to transcend them. She has proven that it doesn’t matter what your diagnosis, personal experience, or the stories you have about your past, if you have the desire to simply feel better you can step into the next version of you, and the world will always be a better place for it.
She lives in Canada with her husband and two amazing kids, loves to travel, do yoga, ski in the winter, paddle board in the summer, and help others find what lights them up.
If you are looking for a transformational weekend then this retreat is for you!
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"I felt drawn to Brooke, because she “walks the talk” - yes I’m coining the phrase - She actually practices what she preaches. I know because of what she shares and because I have had the opportunity to both work by her side and be mentored by her. Brooke is so real and confidently vulnerable."
Ally
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"Csilla has such a warm, accepting, deep and enthusiastic presence that I felt immediately comfortable with. We went deep every session and I came away with so many "ah-hah!" moments, a feeling of spaciousness, and tools I can use in my daily life. I feel more empowered to build a life I truly desire after working with her.”
Jenn
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"She has held my hand and has taken me on a journey I never knew I needed to embark on. She has helped me dive into hard places I didn’t know existed. She taught principles and illuminated patterns. She has compassionately helped me observe my belief systems, my routines and my decision making processes. Working with Carly has changed my perception, my expectations of myself and my family. "
-Jenna
FAQs
Is this only for married women?
Yes. Divorced or Widowed? If it calls to you, heed the call and come.
Is this religious?
Highly spiritual. With Christian undertones, but not dogmatic. We’ll be talking a lot about higher power, divinity, and energies.
How will I get from the airport?
Rent a car
Shuttle / Limo with VIP ticket
Uber
Share with a friend
The drive is 70 minutes.
Does my ticket include food and a room?
Yes. If you upgrade to VIP ticket all food and lodging is included in your reservation.
If you purchase the general admission ticket food and all amenities are included, lodging is NOT included.
Is there a money-back guarantee?
Before April 1st you can recieve a full refund. After April 1st, you are in charge of transferring your ticket.
Is there a payment plan?
Of course! All reasonable payment plan requests will be honored.
What if I want to bring a friend or sister?
Do it! Don’t forget their is a bed buddy discount for $600 each. Or come alone and leave with new soul-sistas!
How many people will be there?
We are looking to create an intimate experience and limiting it to 12.
What is the address?
Cookingham Road Remsen, New York 13438.