Which Spice of Wife are you?
If you are wondering if you got the right test results check out alllll the different spices. A lot of us are a beautiful blend of sweet and spicy. See what resonates with you. Here they are….
Chili Pepper aka "The Authoritative Wife"
Understanding what "spice of wife" you are helps you identify how you respond to conflict, whether you withdraw or pursue, and gives you insight for how to connect with your significant other instead of getting farther apart. So read on to understand yourself and what "spice" you add to your marriage.
Like a fiery chili pepper, the authoritative wife brings heat, intensity, and a bold presence to the relationship. You know how to dominate, you know what you want, and you love a good competitive edge.
You tend to go ALLLLL IN, in everything, but then find yourself burnt out, turned out and done. You find yourself saying "yes" and taking charge more often than not, you can go from lovey dovey to BAMMM rage and danger in no time flat.
You find yourself wanting to be in charge, but then at the end of the day you might find yourself resenting yourself or your partner. You are coming to feel like being in charge isn't the outcome you want, and maybe just maybe ready to settle into something more.
Basil aka “The Avoider Wife”
Understanding what "spice of wife" you are helps you identify how you respond to conflict, whether you withdraw or pursue, and gives you insight for how to connect with your significant other instead of getting farther apart. So read on to understand yourself and what "spice" you add to your marriage.
Like Basil this wife is soothing and mild, often used to balance out stronger flavors. Maybe you have an intense partner and find you need to bring evenness and steadiness to the marriage.
As this spice of wife you tend to lean into walking away and or ignoring and occupy yourself with anything that is more enjoyable than a difficult spouse.
You find yourself not wanting to commit to anything extra in your (or the families) schedule or obligations. You would absolutely prefer to be home, in the comfort of your home, more specifically the couch or your bed with maybe a good book tv, phone, and online shopping on demand. (Sound familiar?)
You might have ghosted a person or two, just to avoid an awkward or uncomfortable situation.
All this pretending like everything is fine (just to avoid ruffling feathers) has come to a head. Maybe your feeling like your relationship has become so surface, your beginning to feel like roommates with your spouse.
You may at times feel like too much has been said and it might be easier to walk away, but that in itself feels absolutely overwhelming. You have worked to avoid all this conflict, but now feeling like something has to change.
Cinnamon aka “The Peace Keeper Wife”
Understanding what "spice of wife" you are helps you identify how you respond to conflict, whether you withdraw or pursue, and gives you insight for how to connect with your significant other instead of getting farther apart. So read on to understand yourself and what "spice" you add to your marriage.
Cinnamon is sweet, warm and universally liked, much like a people-pleasing wife who aims to make everyone around her happy. You add a comforting, pleasant flavor to the relationship, but too much can be overwhelming and might cause to feel like you lose yourself in trying to please others.
You may feel like you have become dependent on your spouse to feel balanced. You notice everything. When your partner is upset, when he is happy, when he is struggling, sometimes you might feel like you are more aware of your spouses emotions than your own.
You find yourself apologizing often, and feeling very chameleon like, trying to change yourself to be everything your partner needs, leaving you feeling like you don't really even know yourself.
You do not like conflict, and you desperately want to be loved, to be seen, or heard, and find yourself wanting and waiting for things to change.
As the peace keeper wife, you have tried to keep the peace for sooooo dang long that conflict is bubbling up inside of you, and feeling like something has to change.
Turmeric aka “The Healthy Connected Wife”
Understanding what "spice of wife" you are helps you identify how you respond to conflict, whether you withdraw or pursue, and gives you insight for how to connect with your significant other instead of getting farther apart. So read on to understand yourself and what "spice" you add to your marriage.
This spice of wife, turmeric is grounding, healing and supportive with a deep nurturing flavor that brings out the best in dishes. (aka your partner)
Your strengths are that you add balance to the relationship, offering wisdom, support and stability. You are not overpowering but, you let your partner shine and you are essential to maintaining overall well-being.
You notice when your husbands behavior, is just that, a behavior. It has no charge, or meaning behind it. You know what you want, and you ask your partner what he wants and you are clear about it and communicate openly, rawly, vulnerably together. This balance of "spice" allows a deeper connection, and a grounding and powerful experience as husband and wife.
Instead of waiting to be loved, You the healthy connected wife, KNOWS how to love, and knows that loving someone else is the most energizing, powerful emotion one could ever feel. So you do it, on purpose, all the time, and you become more and more deeply connected to yourself, (the divine) and your husband.